Alignment, the antidote to being off balance, is a focus in my clinical practice.
When it’s missing, it’s often the underpinning for confusion, depression, fear and relationship concerns.
With the holidays being a trigger, I’m witnessing a ramping up of anxiety, social discomfort and depression. People are out of alignment, off balance, pulled back into old roles, old stories, forgetting how they want to show up. What can you do about this?
Here are some thoughts:
NOTICE WHERE YOU ARE PUTTING YOUR ATTENTION
Being out of alignment is often a consequence of where you put your attention. The holidays stir up old narratives about not being good enough, fitting in, being recognized, and having people who care about you. The negative thoughts eat away your positive sense of self and create a downward spiral. But looking for validation externally isn’t enough. You have to go inside, get grounded and balanced. Take the reins, reclaim the narrative that is more accurate. Use meditation, deep breathing exercises, and connect to nature to regain your sense of self and personal power.
SET BOUNDARIES
The political climate is creating fear in many people, while the media capitalizes on it, amplifying a sense of powerlessness. Recognize how giving it attention gives your power away. Regain your sense of self by remembering what is important to you, setting boundaries on what you don’t want and staying focused on what is important. Turn off the news, be around people who care. Say no to the things that make you uncomfortable.
SHOW UP AND SPEAK UP
Two principles are helpful to get back in alignment. 1) Show up by doing “opposite action”. When feeling alone, anxious or depressed, don’t isolate, push yourself to get out and get involved. Go to the event, say yes to your neighbor, be the one to invite someone. 2) Speak up by giving what you want to receive. Want more generosity, give it with kind words, a smile, and appreciation. You will change the energy around you to one that is warm and receptive rather than cold and rejecting.
These changes can help you regain your alignment and sense of balance. If you want more support, reach out.
